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FAQ: >Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>? >What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do? >How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
So question for ya'll:
How do you deal with finding love, but being afraid to commit?
Hello I just sent a message to my ex who's frankly been jerking me along for years with "maybes" and "probablys" and "eventuallys" to tell me she doesn't have feelings for me so I can cut contact. I have unambiguously been 100% in love with her even to this moment, even through me breaking up with her late last year.
I would really just unironically like someone to tell me that things are going to be alright because right now I want to die and she won't even read it until morning.
Went on a first date with a cute chick I met on POF, everything seemed to go well, hugged and kissed at the end, we agreed we wanted to see each other again, she texted me after the date to say she had a good time and everything and asked if I was free again this week.
I felt really good. Then, a dark feeling in my gut told me to check POF again. So I did, and when I looked at my messages, I could see the girl I went out with was online. Another thing was she changed her location. I remember her telling me she set her location as a different one from where she was because there were few single men in her area, I live in the big city and she lives in the country outskirts where there's not much going on. She basically set her location as a different part of the city and was online. She was even texting me as she was online.
What does it mean? Am I really just her second place, her silver or bronze medal? Did she see my used Toyota and decide she needed a man with a better car? She's just hanging on to me for dinners and trips downtown and maybe a smash or two before she jumps to some next dude? I went from feeling fantastic and feeling like I had a successful date with a gorgeous girl, to feeling like used goods and second pick. My gut is telling me she's looking for a guy who suits her "needs" more, whether he's taller, earns more, lives closer to her, has a less crazy work schedule or whatever it is, since I'm not working the greatest job at the moment, have kind of a hard schedule to meet people with and I'm 5'8". Did I mention how old my Toyota is?
I have a co-worker who is an attractive Indian girl. This girl has been super nice, helpful, respectful since I started and asks help/favors while doing me little favors in return. The the thing is, we have little sparks of chemistry (at least on my end...), and she twirls her hair around me, smiles a lot, etc.,
I'm getting a serious crush on this chick due to all this. But girls never treat me this way. Through my life I've gotten accustomed to being treated with forced politeness or pure apathy by women. My head is telling me this Indian is just keeping me on the hook with her little acts of affection until she can't use me any more.
It would be nice if anon could provide any good further reading on the topic or talk some sense into me
I'm afraid of University. I have bad anxiety and depression. My friends always talk about going to clubs and bars but I'm just not interested in that stuff. I don't want to go to parties or do any of the crazy stuff. I just want to exercise, do my school work, and keep to myself. Is that so bad? What do/did you guys do in your free time at college?
What is wrong with some guys nowadays? Its either braindead jock players aka chads or pornaddicts with limp dicks or incels or seemingly normal guys who have """anxiety"" or are """depressed""" or guys who are so sick that they wear women's clothes and want to girls or dominated in bed
Where can I find a normal regular guy?