I'm slowly losing feelings for my current gf, things haven't been going well and don't seem to be getting better, she's slowly being a pushover, and kind of a bitch. Simultaneously, I'm developing feelings for this girl at work. I'm not a cheating piece of shit, I'd leave her before moving on to the other girl, but that got me thinking.
What if I end this relationship, get with the other girl, and then after some time I also find someone else more interesting? I don't just want this girl just to bang, she is cute as hell, very interesting and fun, however I fear that that is how I felt when I met my gf years ago. Does it become an endless cycle or if I move on will I find someone irreplaceable?
TLDR: Slowly getting tired of gf, fear that if I leave her for someone else I'd get tired of her and cycle goes on.
Guys, I need help. >was with a girl for 1,5 year >turns out she has anorexia >she got a therapist >6 months later she broke up with me (i took it pretty badly)
year later >somehow we started to hang out (not as a couple) >she is still struggling with it
I want to help her, wat do?
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Asking beautiful guys who have no problems with girls:
Do you easily approach sex-topics with the girl, like, even if you've just met? Not going it straight "benis in bagina", but starting off from some distance, then going it smoothly into getting laid on the first date?
As an average looking, I find it rather hard, and even though I make great conversations and have no anxiety, I can discuss sex only with closest girls (which are not those I'd like to fuck). If I am slowly trying to provoke sex-topic on a girl I've just, she usually freezes out.
Im a very calm guy, 19yo, studying economics at uni... im somewhat sociable when im outside, i laugh and everything as normie like as i can, feels very natural, i do snap from time to time; when i go back home, i become a totally different person,dont want to talk to anyone, feel exhausted from all the acting ive been doing during the day at the uni, i dont really like other people but feel the need to have them for later use(assistance with studies or anything else), i used to suffer mild deppression when i was a kid, i remember one day i felt like a bitch and now im like this, it might sound very edgy but i do want others to suffer, i like it when they do.
>Be me >17 years old beta without gf >Me and some friends go to a weeb event >There is a singer who sings some of my childhood anime openings >Everyone is happy, singing and jumping >Except me >I'm so happy about all that but I stood still >I can't express what I feel
This always happens to me and depressed because of it. Am I autist or something? Is there some test so I can know what happens to me?. Pardon my english
Over the past about 2 months, I have been verbally abusive to my girlfriend on random uncalled for occasions. Maybe once a week or less. The second last time it happened i went completely overboard- threatening suicide and saying a whole bunch of insane shit. I woke up the next morning reflecting on my thoughts and realized, that wasnt me, I have some sort of mental illness, and I need to seek help. I explained this to her the best that i could. She mostly thought of it as an excuse
Problem was, we were in thailand on a busy schedule for our last few days and had no time to visit the hospital.
So when we got home a few days later, I outburst again, being a verbally abusive maniac. I scared the shit out of her. I dont blame her being scared and angry with me. She has since packed her things and left. We were together for 2 years. I love her and she is (was) my best friend and soul mate.
Ive been seeking help as fast as I can, but the medical system only goes so fast. I have seen a clinic doctor and been prescribed zoloft, and filled out a mental evaluation form. Will be checking back next week. Im seeing a psychiatrist nurse tomorrow and a psychiatrist for an hour next Monday. I also have some counselling services coming but they arent available for 3 weeks.
She will barely even talk to me now.. wouldnt talk when she came to grab more stuff. Barely responds online... is there any way to fix this? I feel like its such bad luck to have a mental illness arrise from seemingly nowhere and completely destroy my life and relationship.
Do I deserve this? Or can I somehow make her have empathy for the fact that I was mentally ill? I have tried explaining myself to her clearly but she is probably still truamatized from me being a screaming asshole, which I dont blame her.
What can I do to win her back... I am not a mean person and I cant believe I acted that way. I am totally ashamed and depressed.