Hello anons. I need help with a much more depressing issue than i usually have. I was raped a few years ago. Despite me being over it and it not being a crushing weight on my chest, I still have trouble coping with it having happened. I guess it's caused by me not wanting to see myself in such a weak state, but i still can't pin point it. I will NOT seek professional help. The professionals have done nothing but push pills on me. I just some advice. Any good advice for this is highly appreciated.
I've always had a strong desire to teach and look after children. I am the eldest of 8 children. I have been told repeatedly that I would make a fantastic Parent. My only dream that I have figured out, is to start a family of my own. I look up to people like Jordan Peterson, because he is a great example of what a teacher can do.
I have an unrelenting fear though. I am a man and I am terrified of the possibility of a false accusation being slapped on me. The possibility of having years of hard work and dedication being tarnished because a possible minor decided they did not like me.
This is a fairly common place occurrence these days. In an industry dominated by Women and PC/SJW politics. Because of this, I tend to steer clear of any and all interactions with children if I can help it.
Is it worth risking my reputation, my time and effort to pursue my calling to being around mentoring/teaching children, or is it simply too much of a minefield?
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>21 years old >Mixed-raced in USA >Highly specific racial mix of 72% European, 15% Negroid, and 11% Ameri-indian >Totally incongruous with average Hispanic female (A mestizo mix of 1/2 European, 1/2 Ameri-indian) >Only attracted to girls that look like my sister >White women are so unattractive to me that it makes me wonder if the human species would go extinct if everyone thought like me >Realize I can't feel love for people that aren't my family >Wouldn't care if they died under an overpass, and the feeling is mutual >Realize I should just marry my sister and have kids with her to be happy
Is this sound reasoning?
My sister is the female ideal for me, and I love her more than anything else in this world.
I'd like to spend the rest of my life with her and never tire of her company.
when did you get your first girl friend, if you have that is? 18 years and growing over here. Was she cute? I've heard that relationships past high school are shit, would you say this is true? I can't go a day without thinking of having one but I won't settle for anything less than beautiful.
I just need to rant, so I'll just do it here where no one will care. I'm sick of my shitty life but at the same time I can't just let go and kill myself. I have no hope for a future, no hope for a relationship, no hope for a career. I'm in debt, and I'm 27 and still work fast food and don't have a car or license. I want to kill myself, and yet I can't get the courage to do it when I try to attempt and pussy out every time, but I don't want to live this life. And then I'll end up going back to just living life pretending to be happy until my next breakdown. What's even the point? Why does this keep happening? How can I break this cycle? I don't even have insurance to see a doctor or therapist for meds, and even with a gun, I can't just pull the trigger cause I have too many second thoughts and I get too scared about what happens after death. I'm just so tired of doing this all time, it's been years and there doesn't seem an end to this cycle.
I feel like I've majorly fucked up by never having a job before. I'm 24 and have been studying all my life, I've always just thought it was normal to not be working while you're studying because so many of my friends were doing that. Now over the last year or so some things have changed and I'm finding myself feeling more and more useless for not having some money by now. I'm able to get government payments so I've always had enough to get by if I share a house, it's never been more than subsistence though.
Now my girlfriend with me and another couple wants to move to a more expensive suburb and I don't know what to do because 1. I can't really afford to live there unless I don't go out at all, which is going to put a strain on our relationship and 2. I hate the idea of living in trendier/nicer suburbs just for the sake of it. I'd rather live in a dingier 4 bedroom place than a nice two bedroom place when the 4 bedroom place is 2/3rd the price.
Anyway, I've digressed way too much. How the fuck do you get a job when you're 24 and don't have more than three weeks volunteering (in Africa) and 5 years of mediocre study to show on your resume? In Aus if that helps.