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I'm halfway through my senior year of high school, with college application deadlines coming up fast. But I'm not completely sure I want to go to college. I have the funds and the grades to get into a college, but I don't have a lot of motivation. Everyone in my life is pressuring me to go, but I feel like it's too soon to sign away thousands of dollarydoos and four years of my life. Is taking a gap year a bad idea? What other options do I have? And how do I talk to my parents about it?
Not underage and not an 18+ board
4chan as a whole is 18+, certain boards are just not safe to browse at work
If you're not sure what you want to do, don't go to college right off the bat. You'll be wasting your time. Take a gap year, at the very lest. It took me a gap decade to decide what to go to school for, and I'm super happy with my degree. I also think we're going back to a time where not everyone needs a degree. There are shortages in a lot of trades like plumbing, carpentry, electrician, etc. (electrician can actually be pretty fun) that pay really well without consuming your life...
Degree proves you can finish something and have the basic knowledge of workflow. The rest is all hard work. Talent doesn't matter. There are many talented independent arthouse guys who wouldn't be hired to direct transformers 15.
I would go to college and figure it out when you get there, go undeclared and see what interests you. Not many people know exactly what they want to do upon entering and a ton of people switch majors throughout their time at Uni. It's literally adult sleep-away camp, if it doesn't financially strain you then you should go, at the very least you will have a good time.
>Is taking a gap year a bad idea?
Overall, you pretty much need a degree if you want a decent job. People who don't go to college and enter a trade work for years in apprenticeships or trade schools, so no matter what you choose you will need to spend time getting good at your craft. For some reason a lot of people think that you just don't go to college and pick up a trade instead, it isn't that easy. Trades are difficult in their own way, you might not need college but you will sure as hell need motivation. Don't fall for the "college is a waste" meme, you will end up regretting it hard.
Go to college, if you hate it drop out and then pick up a trade, don't do the reverse.
Some bullshit has happened to me that has left me very sore
I have no one or nothing to get mad at
I want to hurt somebody to let it out. Who should it be and how
Yourself and with a bullet to your head.
put me out of my fucking misery
use more lube next time op
i wish i didnt know this feel
What are some reasons a girl would regret hooking up?
>we worked together for half a year
>I've liked her for a while but she didn't know that
>she initiated it
>I was very drunk but she said she wasn't too drunk
>She said it was a mistake and it will never happen again
I feel really hurt and confused, I just want to make sense of things.
Also, should I bother telling her she hurt me, not because she regrets it but because wouldn't even tell me what went wrong ?
don't bring it up anymore, ever. it's her choice. just move on bud.don't stir the pot
Alright, thank you for your time.
don't shit where you eat
I'm 20 (F) and I've never had a bf, never kissed anyone, obviously still a virgin. I have terrible anxiety and it's about 200x worse around attractive men. I'd say I'm attractive so that's not the issue, it's how to go about it when I know no one. All I do is go to the gym and I work from home so can't meet people from work.
It's time to get this over and done with, how do I lose my virginity without catching herpes? Don't care if I have to have a one night stand, I want it done so I can stop being so awkward around the topic. I feel like shit reading about young love and watching 16 year olds hold hands in the street. Fuck I'm so late to the game
You're probably not atractive.
It's NOT that you're a virgin. It's your self doubt, it's fucking killing your chances because you're not putting yourself out there enough.
You're putting this shit on a pedestal. Losing your virginity isn't everything. My girlfriend lost her virginity to some random dick, she's regretted it ever since as it wasn't me. Focus on the things you want to do, make a Tinder on the side.
OP I will tell you the god's honest truth on this subject.
Men dont care about your lack of confidence. A man who can see will measure you but what you look like and how attractive you are. If you want to have an one night stand, you put a lot at risk. And desu sex really isn't super great. Don't get me wrong, I love the fuck out of it and the first time I had it, it was wonderful and amazing. Still its the partner that matters more than the act itself. Dont measure yourself with teenagers running around holding hands and all that shit. Really take a look at yourself. Ask yourself, Am I attractive? Would I do me? Would I want to hang around me? If you cannot answer yes, to any of those questions. You don't need to rush into anything just because you are not in the lovely dovely group. Shit you are 20 years old! I didn't get laid or had my first kiss til 22. I really didn't pursue those things, I was too busy with college and other hobbies. I put in the effort and ended up with a relationship with kisses and sex. Not hard to do! You need to take yourself into account and not just rush into these things.
Stupid question incoming; bear with me.
I just registered for a forum that does not have a feature for changing your username. I made an embarrassing, albeit common spelling mistake in the username... Should I ask the moderators/administrators to change it, or just stick with it? If I ask to change it, it's merely one embarrassing moment and I save myself a bunch more that could happen in the future if I leave the misspelled word. However, the mods could potentially not even have the ability to modify usernames (nothing is mentioned regarding this on the site's FAQ or in its rules), and then it would be creating a pointless awkward situation for myself; besides, I do sort of like the way the name looks misspelled better... and there are even people who misspell it on purpose to make it look "cooler".
Something else of note is that this site is invite-only so it's not possible for me to register another account. I am also not going to disclose the name as it's too embarrassing. That said, what would you do, /adv/?
Just play the misspelling off as a joke. Besides if it's a cute misspelling then it won't look bad and might be memorable to others on the forum.
invite us to the site you dickhead
Just invite yourself and make a new account.
How do I seek professional help for depression without friends and family knowing
How do I talk to them about this without sounding like an emo faggot looking for false sympathy
My father sexually abused me throughout my childhood
Now in my early/mid 20s I am deeply drawn to cultivating mentors and father figures
I worry that I'm projecting something I was missing on them and I'm going to ruin all my relationships with unrealistic expectations
Is this healthy?
Yeah it is likely that subconsciously you crave a chance to have that father-daughter type bond but then in a healthy manner. This is very unlikely to work out in practice, as when you have a healthy relationship your partner is not your father figure and when he is the relationship isn't what it could be so you cannot have both. Father figures provide guidance, safety and support in life but are eventually abandoned in favor of going your own way.
Either way how problematic this is depends. If it is a mild effect it might not be an issue in any way. If you feel instant sexual feelings towards any older men coaching you, and/or you cannot feel romantic attraction to guys closer to your age, I recommend therapy. Ultimately you are the best judge of whether or not this gets in the way of living the life you want to lead.
if you project into actual father figures (you mentioned mentors) I imagine it will to be fine. everyone needs strong men to look up to, and everyone needs someone or something to guide them.
if you project a father figure onto someone who is *not* one, I imagine that can go very bad. think of women who say "I can't be his girlfriend and his mother."
looks like there are no females in the entire thread, unless someone is lying
>>19050357 >My father sexually abused me throughout my childhood >Now in my early/mid 20s I am deeply drawn to cultivating mentors and father figures >I worry that I'm projecting something I was missing on them and I'm going to ruin all my relationships with unrealistic expectations >Is this healthy?
No. Go see a therapist to sort out your psyche.
>>19050604 >if you project into actual father figures (you mentioned mentors) I imagine it will to be fine. everyone needs strong men to look up to, and everyone needs someone or something to guide them.
Guess I value them so much now that I do have role models, that I'm a bit afraid of asking for too much
If you care this much, you care too much
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I know I posted this yesterday but I haven't decided on what to say (its only been 1 day). May say inb4 if you're so violent then beat my dick for the keks or the safe response, which is "I can handle outlaws like you" or some shit like that. I'm curious how this will play out lads.
maybe don't message back someone who jokes about violence op? just some common sense for you.
Tell her that you beat your last gf so bad that she wound up in a wheelchair
"In high school I was involved in band competitions. I was known for violins against women"
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Ok lads, is this the right response?
This. She'll probs like the joke
/adv/, I am obese.
I am trying to turn my life around and I have lost over 80 pounds in the last 6 months The problem is that I'm still over 300lb and I'm still being stared at, judged, and occasionally even laughed at.
It's taking a toll on me.
Also, some of my extended family will be coming to visit me and my parents and I havent seen them since I was maybe 12 years old and i know that they'll judge me too.
How do I cope with being fat and being judged while working so hard to lose weight?
I am in pretty bad shape as well. I have had random people make fun of me in Walmart and places as well, maybe not over 300lbs but at 280lbs. Still it is par for the course, If I overhear people say shit I just usually look at them in a mean way. Usually they stop because they are embarrassed a few times I have been called out.
Still best thing to do is just lose the weight. I use those situations as motivation.
I make fun of fat people because they are abominations
Thank you for your kind words, anon.
I really appreciate it and I needed to hear that.
I will try to use these situations as more motivation, as well. Thank you.
One thing I have noticed is that if you tell people you are losing weight. Dont go madhouse crazy on what you eat in front of those people. They remember and will ridicule you behind your back. Also dont be the diet coke guy, commit in front of friends and family and they will respect you more for it. They may think its a trend but the 2nd or 3rd time you are out with them and you order something light they will know its for real .
Just think about someone that is quitting smoking and then they state they are going cold turkey, 100% stop. Then you see them lighting up a short cigarette and saying "Well I am only smoking 1 today". It has that same effect.
> plan to lose 20lbs so I look better > gain 30 instead somehow > keep trying to lose weight > only lost 10 lbs > mostly gained it back again > can't lose weight for the life of me, have a really hard time staying motivated At least you're doing better than others in terms of self-discipline. Could be worse.
How can you emotionally manipulate a person into getting stuff who is in a bad place?
asking for a friend
Suck my dick.
Forget to put some side story
This person has manipulated my friend into having hope in a relationship that wont happen
ie, not specifying if she likes him or not and telling that person if he goes away she is going to kill herself and just basically using him to help her deal with shit knowing about his feelings
How can you manipulate a person who is in a bad spot emotionally to benefit YOU, basically pump and dump that person
If your friendo wants to be that dumb, this is a lesson he needs to learn the hard way.
So you're trying to break up a relationship because you're jealous?