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How do you deal with drive-by insults? Do you just accept that they got a cheap laugh at you with their friends and they'll sleep soundly that night?
Holy fuck Americans are assholes... I'm South African, and even here you would never see that happening. Guess South African would throw shit at your car if you tried anything like that.
>>25146200 Like everyone else has said OP, you're not a nigger you don't have to react. If you want voice your disapproval flip them the finger. If you feel like a fight throw something at the car.
Of course you don't necessarily have to fight, you could also try smash a window, then run.
>>25146200 >How do you deal with drive-by insults?
>Do you just accept that they got a cheap laugh at you with their friends and they'll sleep soundly that night?
Remind me what the problem is?
Drive by insults are like insults on the internet. People play tough because they have an actual obstacle between them and whoever they choose to challenge.
Same reason why girls look down on cat-callers.
I thought about that too but internet insults don't bother me though for some reason
I know I’m gonna get made fun of for this post but hear me out
When I was 7, my mom was raped infront of me, then I was molested myself a few months later, both unrelated to eachother.
My parents brought me to build a bear workshop and I got a teddy bear after this. I loved him so much.
I’m 21 now, and while I was away for evacuation due to hurricane, my dad had a fucking crackhead “clean out” my room and he threw away my teddy bear
I am devastated, as I wanted to have it until I was old and could maybe even give it to my kids
I now can’t stop thinking about it and crying that it’s lying in a dump somewhere abandoned. I almost saw it as a pet and miss him.
His name was Mr. Snuggles :(
Making me miss my two guys back home, damn. Similar here, lots of childhood sexual abuse, some things like that just stick. I'm planning on giving mine to my kids too, permitting something like this doesn't happen.
Honestly, and I don't say this in a dismissive or deriding manner, see a therapist. You've had a piece of your younger life, which was already stolen from you, stolen again. In a way it was a bulwark to keep those bad things from creeping back into your head, on a subconscious level you're being forced to confront the past once again. I am in the exact same place right now, for unrelated reasons. It's tough as hell, but keep fighting, and do it with the right tools (therapy, medication if needed, psychedelics if desired, healthy lifestyle, etc). It sucks and is a lot of work but yoh absolutely will thank yourself for resolving shit now rather than resigning to a half-lived life. Stay strong brother
My family finally got insurance a few months ago so I had my first psychiatrist appointment a few weeks ago, and my next in a few days
I’m on escitalopram and buspar now but I still need to see an actual therapist
I’m just so fucking broke and depressed…but thank you for validating my feelings and not making fun of me
You got it my dude. Not sure how your insurance works, but the more sessions the better, go as often as money will allow. This isnt some "checkup every six months" type shit, not yet at least. In the meantime though, an unexpectedly great way to fill the gaps are irl support groups. I've just joined SLAA (sex and love addicts anonymous) and SAA (sex addicts anonymous) a few months ago, and its actually astounding to see how many obscure specifics types of suffering that feel unique to me, are actually a shared experience of people with a similar past. I was fuckin SHOCKED to hear just how often incest is. Holy fucking shit, 9 out of 10 times, i thought that shit was just me. And really specific deeeeep down patterns and insecurities, so many other people related to. Highly highly recommend, its free, happens often, and you make some new friends as a result. I go twice a week (once to each) and do therapy every other week, havent made tremendous progress quite yet but its super helped slow the slide out of my own sanity, like a psychic blood transfusion or some shit.
A totally normal response - if it weren't a bear it could be a photo or favorite children's book or something.
The advice is the same that is given when a beloved pet dies. Get another. It won't be a replacement or the same, but it will be the beginning of a new set of associations. A new doll (or whatever) can help you get through the loss of the bear the way the bear helped you get through the traumas, and over time will become as precious.
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I have horrible anxiety so I’d be scared to join a group, but thank you for telling me. I’ll consider it. I appreciate your response.
Luckily I was able to find the same type of bear on eBay and ordered it, I had to do like an hour of research as it was a special 2007 type bear
I autistically panic every time and change the subject without acknowledging it.
How are you supposed to respond in such a situation?
>>25145648 >smile >"thanks"
Smile, look at her in the eye, and say thank you, then return the compliment.
tell her: "I know"
"Anon you are so smart"
I dont even panic I completely dissociate and ignore them even if they’re still trying to talk to me
I am not a very outgoing type, but I enjoy enjoy hanging out with my friends, going to parties etc.
Problem is that when they tell me to go for a drink or to a party, I immediately become bored, even if 30 minutes earlier I wanted to go out. And when we start drinking/smoking I enjoy it and say to myself <<oh, I like going out, going to bars etc>>. Two completely different moods.
How can I change that? I want to say yes without second thoughts.
>>25148255 >drinking/smoking I enjoy it >I put sad blockers in my brain and I enjoy it
When I go to work somewhere (physical, because it's the easiest to get), they always tell me that I learn too slowly, I work too slowly and I'm not smart enough. I'm trying my best. And what now?
>>25148280 >I'm trying my best. And what now
That sucks, keep trying.
I have some crazy mood swings that has only been worse as I have gotten older.
I can in one day go from being the most happy person ever to total depression and suicidal thoughts.
I have had a pretty rough past and have an extremely hard time reconcile with it. Dunno if that has anything to do with it.
The depression phases usually are longer than the good phases.
Should I see a psychiatrist?
textbook example of bipolar disorder. only see a therapist if you want to.
Sounds like bipolar
How did you get over your childhood physical and emotional and parental abuse?
Dude, anon knows that having shit emotions is bad.
He doesn't want to (or perhaps can't) alter his emotions, even though he knows.
Telling Anon he should choose better emotions is like telling you or I that we should develop telekinesis.
I got old and experienced enough to realize that my mother was a deeply broken human being when I was a child.
>Clinical depression her entire life and a shit childhood of her own. >Got knocked up by a piece of shit who immediately turned abusive and pushed her down a flight of stairs trying to get rid of me. >Fired due to being pregnant, because that was totally legal at the time. >Ended up in public housing, eventually got a decent job and things were finally looking up. >Sister gets knocked up at 18 and has to move home to mooch off of mum. >Brother suddenly dies in an accident at 21, the same year. >Her remaining family turn into massive cunts and want whatever scraps they can dig out of my brother's possessions, contest his will and basically conspire with his (already estranged) step-father. She has no time to mourn with all of the legal bullshit. >This is the year that I am pulled out of schooling at age 8 and basically left to raise myself in isolation from the world.
It's shit. My life was categorically stunted by that decision and I was a social recluse until I was 23. I will never reach my potential because I am unable to ever pursue higher education. But there's no point dwelling on it and letting it continue to ruin the rest of my life.
i want to fuck woman but woman dont want to fuck me
>>25147442 >I am unable to ever pursue higher education
Does anyone else have trauma where they're afraid of people and afraid of trusting people? It's turned me into a huge loner because I can't even take the first step with trying to meet people. Haven't gone on a date ever or went out to try and meet new people because I always think they'll hurt or reject me in some way
When I apply for jobs, they often ask if I have a disability.
Technically I do, not a physical one but I'm diagnosed with autism. Should I declare this? I'm the type of autist where it's not always obvious to others but after spending a lot of time with me people can tell I'm retarded. It definitely makes getting a job harder, in several ways. I mean, aren't only a small fraction of us employed? It'd be nice to get a job on my own merit but then again I'm obviously at a disadvantage.
Would it fuck up my chances of getting the job, or help? If I get the job, would they be nicer to me?
I'm in the UK if that matters.
Dude... I can't get laid to save my life. Loud sounds make me sperg out. I have cormorbid mild Tourette's, anxiety, depression, ADD. I get lost in internal monologues regularly. I still have the narrow hobbies of my 10 year old self. Being around other people is distressing. Don't tell me it's not a disability.
But I think if I tell them because i live in Western europe they're more likely to hire me
>>25147072 >Should I declare I have a disability?
I do, my government pays for my rent, and then also pays $340 a week for me to exist. It's based.
No one said it's not a disability. Just keep your disabilities straight. Autism and retardation are entirely different things, with different features and different limitations.
>Quit drinking cold turkey
>Don't miss alcohol or being drunk but life gets 500% more miserable
How the fuck do I enjoy life sober ? I've lost absolutely all motivation for doing my job, I can't be assed about finding a gf anymore and I don't even have plans for the future. I just want to fuck off to the ass-end of nowhere to pursue my hobbies and not have to deal with people anymore. Advice to deal with this ?
>>25147861 >I just want to fuck off to the ass-end of nowhere to pursue my hobbies and not have to deal with people anymore
What's stopping you from just doing that now? Especially if you have no plans for the future, and no current obligations.
Hey, congrats on your sobriety. I know how hard it is at first but if you stay strong, your sobriety will build on itself and you will feel much better. Sincerely, an ex alcoholic and addict.
been living in the ass-end of nowhere for 4.5 years now
if that's what you are feeling, then go there!
did it help me?
has it just replaced group of problems A with group of problems B?
yeah, that pretty much sums it up.
>>25147916 >What's stopping you
My friends, because I still want to see them. I'd probably miss getting laid after a few years too, and I have trouble living on my own. I'd also need a new job because the fridge ain't gonna fill itself.
Thanks buddy, congrats on your sobriety too. We're all gonna make it.
What are the problems of group B ?
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To clarify, this isn't typical incel shit, i already don't desire sex or relationships anymore, i've gradually become basically asexual; But even then i'll admit w*men still live rent free in my head because they're everywhere; So i can't stop being reminded of them, of how evil and irresponsible they are and how they continually worsen society by encouraging and empowering corrupt authorities, it's a matter of morals, i will NOT abandon my morals, but at the same time it's painful and distracting to always be surrounded by evil unvirtuous people and unable to have quiet. It's uncomfortable as fuck to live with the implications of that. How do i calm my indignation and make it less distracting?
>>25147856 >How do i stop giving a shit about w*men? As in how do i stop being distracted by my hate of them
You get other interests in life besides women, so that way your failure in this 1 interest doesn't bother you since you're succeeding in other areas.
> w*men still live rent free in my head because they're everywhere; So i can't stop being reminded of how evil and irresponsible they are and how they continually worsen society by encouraging and empowering corrupt authorities, it's a matter of morals, i will NOT abandon my morals, but at the same time it's painful and distracting to always be surrounded by evil people and unable to have quiet. How do i calm my indignation and make it less distracting?
My bad, you're a schizophrenic with uncontrolled intrusive thoughts.
Take alcohol and marijuana.
Have you become asexual, or have you become a porn and masturbation addict who is using that to quench his sexual desire?
>>25147925 >Have you become asexual
My sexual attraction has been enormously subdued by my disgust of w*men, it's still kinda weakly there but it's so weak that it's easy to ignore; Ironically, i can now confidently talk to any w*man no matter how attractive she is if needed for some reason like in a professional context, and not be any nervous or sexually interested, although definitively hiding my contempt
> or have you become a porn and masturbation addict who is using that to quench his sexual desire?
I've been on nofap for so long i don't remember when i started
>>25147948 >My sexual attraction has been enormously subdued by my disgust of w*men, it's still kinda weakly there but it's so weak that it's easy to ignore; Ironically, i can now confidently talk to any w*man no matter how attractive she is if needed for some reason like in a professional context, and not be any nervous or sexually interested, although definitively hiding my contempt
now become gay and have a healthy relationship