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So I have a long-term goal to write every day until I have 80,000 words. I've scheduled it out, so it's quantifiable and I can hold myself accountable. But I barely stuck to it for a weak, and now I'm not doing it anymore...almost at all. For this task, and in general, how do I develop disciplined routines?
I mean sorry if it's a bold assumption but I don't think coming up with a basic plot or story is really creative (like they went to the store). Just fill the word count with whatever comes to mind, descriptions of characters or scenery, dialogue, an outline of the plot, something. It's not that difficult.
Writing is mostly about getting the words onto the page rather than having maximum creativity all the time. Yeah it sucks and sometimes you're not enjoying the experience of just describing things flatly but it's better to have that traction there so you can go back and correct it and expand when you're feeling it. Also it doesn't have to be chronological
And thats why you will never make a living in a creative field
Creativity is prone to blocks etc. that you can't control. Most artists are extremely unequal in their ability to output "something" without any regard to quality.
The creative process is complex and despite you knowing how to do it, despite having a concrete motivation, you are a human being and sometimes there are thoughts that get in the way of the simplest tasks.
There is in my opinion more to do on how to deal with that fact rather than aiming for perfection.
And yes it is a bold assumption if you add to that burden it's not something you draw as is from your environment, like a "describe your day" task.
Frankly I know for 100% i can't write a "they went to the store" kind of story on a daily basis unless i have some frame and things to get inspired on.
How do I get over the fear of being sexual with girls?
It has come to a point where a girl is pushing herself in my arms, and I don't mind that at all. Sometimes they'll give sexual indications too but I can't return them.
I'm afraid to put my hand on them, even though I want to (because I don't want to make them uncomfortable?), but it seems like that's all they're waiting for.
I want to become intrusive but why can't I? Am I respecting their personal space too much?
Flirting is not a problem for me, it's just these shitty touches.
How do I stop being such a pussy and put my hand on their knee for example.
Help an anon out, /adv/.
I'm 25, I am a pharmacist. I work in a hospital. I like the intellectual part of my job but I feel like I'm not doing any good for people. I make far more money than I can spend. I have some great friends who take care of me and are there for me. I pretty much have anhedonia, I used to play video games many hours a day. I just stopped one day and now I don't really get happy doing anything. I work tons of hours (60+ a week). I go in to work on the days I'm not even working just because I have nothing to do. When I go out with my friends we mostly just drink. What should I do with my life. I feel like I used to be shut in due to self consciousness, but now I just don't care, about anything.
Sometimes I just drive around in my car at night to do something. I let go of the steering wheel and close my eyes on a country road and just try to let go.
How do I change this. What do I do to buy back in to life.
You should take a hiatus and travel for a few months, somewhere you haven't been. And either before or after getting back you should consider getting some fun hobbies, ones that require you to go physically and do things. Personally I enjoy watersports like sailing and kayaking. You have money and time - don't forget why those things are so precious and what you've worked so hard for. At the very least go camping for a weekend and just take a break and observe the world around you, and figure out who you want to be
Get off of 4chan Duc
Learn new things, read classic literature, learn to play the violin, take kayaking lessons, volunteer for the children’s hospital.
Do something that gives meaning to your life.
Jesus saves. Get a good King James Bible and read about how much God loves you and about your individual purpose in this life. The book of John is a good starting point.
Ex Pharm student, get out. We were swindled early on because that work is soul crushing, you just get money to kill people or aid them in their self destruction. On top of that student debt sucks.
So i just got regected by a girl very harshly earlier, what should I do to try to get over it?
Realize that everyone has dealt with rejection in their life and that getting laid is mostly a numbers game. Very good looking guys still get rejected all the time, such is life.
I'm sorry anon.
You could apply for a job or promotion.
Going to school.
Taking care of yourself.
Hanging out with friends.
Playing a game.
Remember that this'll pass as well.
>>19052880 >numbers game
Had this happen the other day.
What you do is listen to "That's Life" by Frank Sinatra. Don't masturbate.
Have a stiff drink if you've got one.
How do I pull myself out of a dark place, and stop pushing people away when they get too close to me? I'm sad and angry but I don't know why. I'm lonely yet I don't want to be around others.
Everyone I interact with can see the stress and sadness in my eyes even if I'm smiling, please help
>>19052560 >big pharma neutering depressed people with pills
Society is bullshit
Try meditation practices
start smoking week OP
This might help. It didn’t for me though.
This is more likely to help.
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The answer is to give in somewhere and pretend to be like the normal people to get there, but you will constantly feel like someone else. To fix that one you could make yourself have split personality then just go with the winner. I am in the same boat, but I am too rebellious to play pretend like everyone else.
>20 and female
>abused physically until 18 and emotionally till recently
>cat out of the bag with family, attack me first now trying to pretend nothing happened
>tried to quit weed but spiraling mentally, can’t really afford it either
>afraid to see doctor about this due to medical trauma
>been more asleep than awake since Friday, can’t keep myself together unless I’m working
>husband clueless on how to help, makes things worse sometimes due to panicking when i go mute
>have tried killing myself multiple times but have resisted for several years, occasional drug and alcohol binge when i feel that way
not really sure what to do anons, im on my last leg and cant stand my mind and how often i shut down. it scares me, exhausts me, everyday i try to plan how ill destroy myself. i don’t want this for myself but i can’t take the flashbacks, bad thoughts, and the doubt i have in myself from constant gaslighting. i just want to be free from my past. free from the people that were supposed to care for me . i have so many stress related medical problems with lots of bills attached. i don’t know what i did to deserve how they treated me, i wish i knew how to cope outside of weed. any sort of guidance and uplifting words would be appreciated
Get your husband and your in-law to help you get your shit back. Get a restraining order against your family. Block them on your phone, FB, whatever the fuck.
If you don't think you're ready to get your shit back, at the least block their communication. Don't just ignore it, block it. Then get some therapy. It can be alright, but you really need the therapy. It can help where your husband cannot. I'm sure he's wonderful, but he's not a therapist.
Honestly, go to a family gathering and state everything for everyone to hear, bring as many family members into this as possible.
>husband >only 20 No wonder your life is such a mess. Honestly, you should uniroically kill yourself. Your life ain't gonna get better so just end it right now.
I'd be inclined to agree with this anon here. It doesn't seem like your quote unquote family adds any value to your life whatsoever.
There's hope, OP. You still have people out there that care about you. Cut the toxic out of your life and look forward, you've been through a hell of a lot but you're still young - there's plenty of time and space to move on from this if you put in the work.
Same anon, here. My own girlfriend was raped many times throughout her younger years. After that stopped, a completely different person molested her and threatened her life on multiple occasions. Her mother excused his behavior, and berated my girlfriend. Her father beat the shit out of her for petty shit like failing to fold laundry properly. He nearly killed himself and her when he drove her home from school, drunk. She suffered from bad depression, tried to kill herself. She's just fucking wonderful since leaving that shit behind. Wants children despite all that's happened to her, wants happiness. I'm not trying to directly compare, I just want you to know that people do suffer and can get better.
For your husband, I can empathize. Know that your husband cares about you a lot. He fucking loves you to death. Know that you can get past, not over, but past this shit that's happened to you. But you NEED someone to talk to so you can truly come to terms with what's happened. Someone who is trained to listen to these things.
Is there a way for someone like me to get a hold of a handgun whose only income is SSI?
I have my reasons, but will provide if necessary.
get a rifle op, in most states in the US you only need to be 18 to buy and own, no training.
Save up like $250. That’ll get you something like a Star Model B from a pawn shop.
If your reasons are schizophrenia, then you should probably just keep going and instead save up for really good food or nice booze or something.
If you can type on a computer then your life is basically fine.
If you lost the use of your dick your life is not over. Most people with dicks don't even use theirs, you now have the added advantage of not having to worry.
IDK what your deal is OP, but I think you should just save up your money and buy some expensive booze instead of a gun.
Save up for a few months. You can get a quality gun for $500 and one that goes bang most of the time for around $200.
$50 a month for four months isn’t bad:
It's not necessary, but we'd be a lot more comfortable with your question knowing you aren't planning to harm someone. Can't speak for everyone here, I myself have no idea how I'd legally get a gun because I have no desire or interest in that. Kinda feeling like I should report this thread to mods....
>met on tinder
>went to a concert together
>his alarm went off on his phone so i turned it off
>made breakfast for him
>drove him to his morning class
> I've been texting him and he hasn't been responding for a week
>did i do something wrong?
you are a thot, you are disposable. an after-thot.
your solution: DIvest in thot, INvest in THINK
It happens. Most of the time it's girls who ghost, so now you know how it feels.
Don't worry about giving it up too early or late
To a girl from a girl, you got pumped and dumped. My advice is to stop going on Tinder to look for love. Try making friends with men first so that you two aren't building a relationship from sex. Also, you *need* to stop sleeping with men on the first date. I understand that you want them to like you, but it never works out. Men are just kind of inbred in that way, that when sex is in the equation they lose their focus.
What drugs should I try aside from LSD (from darknet markets)? Must be dorm-friendly.
That's not how I look at it personally. Whenever I'm on LSD, I *am* the drug.
I don't have experience with shrooms but I just order all my shit from darknet markets
>>19052850 >Whenever I'm on LSD, I *am* the drug.
are you 18 or something?
anyway, in this case you *will become* insanity.
2cb any of the aco dmt products (research chems) cant do any of the stims because it's obvious, unfortunately so you wont be able to experience the joys of crack cocaine
I'm way past due but it seems so daunting, in terms of complexity.
What would you consider financially ready?
Steady pay with about 3 months or more in savings.
Keep in mind that you will probably need to fork out $3k to $8k in order for all of the paperwork involved. Skipping on a rent payment is one thing; skipping on a mortgage payment can be much worse.
With steady pay I mean full time employment for several years, not necessarily in the same job, but not a recently acquired job (less than 3 months)
Come to the table with $8K. Go to a mortgage company (not a bank) and go through thr prequal process. Expect them to crush your dreams and belittle you.
Fix all the crap they belittled you about (high debt, unpaid overdue debt, continuous overdraft fees) and go back to them. Go through the process again. Aim for a small house that is in move-in condition (I live in New England so that would be something like a $120K home). Always talk down the asking price. Go.
I think I'm good here.
I have some crud that's unfairly pushing my credit score down. Are rates set in stone, or could I explain that (thing) isn't really valid and get treated like a 700+?