You're life isn't perfect, it is "safe". Nothing can go wrong because nothing happens. Your mental state is one in which you resign to isolation because struggling against it is hard. I was in this state when I was in my 20s. I was just resigned to suicide Soon(tm). When death is closing in on you, will you be able to say that your life of watching cartoons and playing video games was meaningful? I always knew the answer was "no", but was afraid to leave my safe shell. I've never lost a job and gotten a new one, I just keep the same one I hate because I don't have the wherewithal to find another. So you're better than me in that regard.
I suffer from anxiety about going new places, sometimes places I've been before too. I find that the best angle of attack is deciding I want to do something, that I will be there, and going there on my own is the only way to do achieve that. I don't have the choice of doing nothing then. I've skipped meetup events in the past and always regret not going.
I have found meeting new people isn't that hard, getting close is. I can't help with that, but introductions go like: What do you do? Where do you live? What do you like to do on the weekends? Do you have any pets? If she takes the initiative to ask these, answer fully and reply with "How about you?". If she doesn't she wants you to do the asking, and if she doesn't reply with howaboutyou, you just offer up your answer. It is a date, it is safe to ask her about herself (don't ask who else she fucked or if she squirts), it lets her know you are interested in her. Don't avoid talking about yourself though, offer information about you that relates to her answers. If she says she likes anime that is an opportunity for you to ask about what she likes and why and tell her what you like and why. That goes for anything you have in common.>>20120979
I used to like video games before I started trying to break out of my shell this year, I don't now that I've tasted the outside world