Yet each of these two-month dalliances that consist of two-to-three dates ends up being the subject of one of her songs, or at least a rumored subject (the media loves to speculate on those). Most of those songs imply the kind of deep emotional connection and true heartbreak warranted by a long term relationship where she and her partner become inextricable parts of each other’s lives. As someone in a real relationship, this deeply offends me. She has never committed herself to the kind of partnership and bond that warrants such a level of emotionality, at least not in public. In short, she hasn’t “earned it” when it comes to those types of songs.
(To get out ahead of some criticism that will undoubtedly arise at this point: I suppose it’s theoretically possible that she has had some sort of long term, deeply felt, romantic relationship that we simply don’t know about. That said, we have already established how transparent she is about the faux-fairytale that is her life. It’s relatively safe to say she doesn’t have some truly substantive relationship with a non-famous person whom she actually loves hiding in a closet somewhere. Plus the idea that she is leading two separate lives, one in public, and one in private, while selling the public one as her private life, would, if true, essentially prove my point about her duplicity.)
Her songs may be emotionally resonant for some listeners, but that’s form over substance. Storybook romances are easy to recite. The tinge of anger in a breakup is a shallow emotional depth to plumb. Her work isn’t motivated by real emotional investment on her end. Which is why the whiny, selfish, and bitter songs are more believable than the ones where she attempts to sound loving or nostalgic.