Are women wired to cheat?
Today I learned a girl I completely thought was "not like that", did it.
It completely crushed my expectations about women.
Is it something men need to understand? Or fidelity is indeed a hard to find gem?
>>18274068 >I spent time with 6 women >therefore I know all women
Okay buddy. I see what you're trying to get at, but your methodology and your idea of "women" comes from a very small, select pool of probably middle to upper class trash. Yup, a perfect sample of all of humanity.
And there's more equality than you think - people being better at one thing or another comes from practice, not from if you're swinging a johnson or not. Humans are blank slates that mimic what they see around them. We just have years upon decades upon centuries of ingrained practices and traditions that conform one side or another to be "good" at specific things. People of both genders break that mold all the time. A guy that loves a girl can get confused and cheat. A girl who loves a guy can stay faithful and not fuck around. It goes both ways, dude. Saying it's destined for a woman to cheat because of mental gymnastics is bullshit - have you SEEN how many guys come here for advice in those exact situations, where they got emotional and butthurt about something simple, cheated, and then found out the woman wasn't at fault at all? And how many girls come on here asking about cheating and bullshit, and how many of us show that if we switched the genders around, we'd still tell them they're a bunch of morons for trying to cheat on someone who loved them?
Why are you trying to divide men and women? What's the purpose, what's the end goal? To make everyone gay, or alone?
>>18271645 >Women with boyfriends are more flirtatious than single women
Or maybe flirtatious women are more likely to have boyfriends.
Also, casual flirting isn't cheating. It's normal communication. If you weren't an angry basement NEET, maybe you'd know that.
Chad cheats while beta males stay faithful. Every woman cheats if the conditions are right.
Aw, look, it's feeling got hurt. Maybe you should get back to your containment board. Things will be better there.
And are you really giving advice? Because I don't actually see advice. I just see you spouting off about how shitty women are. That's not advice.
Last thread was archived.
I applied to a place thinking I wouldn't get the job just so I could have the excuse "oh well i tried"
>TFW I was to much of an autist to answer the phone or call back
I just want to an hero I have no dreams or goals and actually thinking about getting up at 8 in the morning and not fucking shit up creates a pit in my stomach that causes all my previous autism to bubble to the top
I still have 2 more hours until I can take sleeping pills and go to bed,
I hate life.
Sounds like you are being gaslighted. She's toxic.
I'm not offended, I lose interest. I wasn't too specific so I'll give some examples of what I mean. I fix a bug in a program: "Wow, you're like the queen of programming!". I mention I can speak a bit of a language "Wow that's amazing!" I mention a bird's name (a kind of bird that's everywhere on our city) "You're so fast at recognizing birds!". I like compliments as much as everyone else, it's these dumb compliments about small stuff that turn me off.
i just spent an entire night with a guy but we didn't fuck or even kiss because we're painfully introverted and won't initiate anything. i hate myself.
Hey guys I am a bit of the trouble here.
So long story short I met a girl like 2 months ago and I love her like (not just in bed love) like actual thing.
Anyway we together play in 1 band and currently stay at some camp site.
So I know she knows that I like her a lot, so here is a twist she's just turned 18 and I am like almost 19, but then there this faggot who play Sax, he is like almost 17 and there is another Russian guy he is like ~26 and they bought trying to get her, like unironicly saying that she should go with them in bed so they can go deep inside them.
So how to I politely tell them to fuck off, with no like puchclubs and swearing, I don't want her to see me like that.
Well you see I am doing that type of thing when these 2 dudes coming up I just stop what ever I do and nope my self out of there.
I am just wasn't sure if I will lose her that way, cause I am not sure if she like worried that I left or if she just, "oh thanks god he left"
You know you've fallen lower when you use a name to belittle someone else's name. On 4chan.
wrong person, idiot
Yeah, wrong person you dumb fuck
Yea I'm a dumb bitch so what? Leave me alone pls.
So hello /adv/
Little info about myself
>have alcohol and drug problems
>go to a decent university
>meet girl with who I fall in love with
>I have always had a hard time attaching myself to people and I have never cared for anyone but her
>we hang around but nothing intimate
>a few weeks pass
>we still cool at the surface of things
>in reality I have actually been losing my love for her and I don't know why
Basically my greatest concern is that I will end up losing all my feelings and I don't want that since I have never been able to express them before. I'm 21, I've been into relationships (though it was all for sex) before but I am scared that this is what the future is going to be for me.please help idk
>>18274105 >have alcohol and drug problems
That's awfully vague.
>same age my parents were when they got married
>Never even had my first kiss
I think it's safe to assume that things will be bad forever, how do I find the strength to go on and try to at least finish my education and get a job?
So this just happened to me. This woman was messaging me for a while, let's just say I used to teach children and she's one of the moms I got to know. Eventually she flat out said she wanted to fuck, and this is where we are. I'm going over to her house tonight to do it, but I've never actually had sex. Any advice?
She's literally given you a free pass to do whatever you want.
So, come up with some ideas. Execute them. Avoid "uhhh" moments where you're not sure what to do. Not much else to say, just go for it.
This is disgusting. Having a your first awkward sex being recorded so her husband can jerk off to being cucked. You're going to bust in about 30 seconds and they will most likely play the video over and over again laughing at you.
Take some viagra and have fun aint nothing to lose
Will I ever get over her?
Will I ever feel the same way about somebody else again?
Why do I feel like I won't ever feel the same way about someone else?
Why do I keep thinking about her?
Why do I feel like I shouldn't have left?
Why do I feel like she needs me and doesn't want me?
I don't know what she feels and sometimes I don't even know what I feel.
just do it , marry her, stop with ur bullshit. whining will i ever get over her. if you love her prove it marry her if you love her just do it already
prove it , you wont do shit
elliot smith sucks
>Will I ever get over her? No >Will I ever feel the same way about somebody else again? No >Why do I feel like I won't ever feel the same way about someone else? Because you've learned that no matter how much you care about someone, it's never enough >Why do I keep thinking about her? Because you're broken >Why do I feel like I shouldn't have left? Because you have no will power >Why do I feel like she needs me and doesn't want me? Because once you lose respect and face you'll never get it back. Tough titty, right? >I don't know what she feels and sometimes I don't even know what I feel. Most likely because you're a faggot that hasn't learned his lesson.
how do I learn my lesson? I'm ready to learn
>>18273804 >Why do I feel like I won't ever feel the same way about someone else?
ask her father for her hand in marriage. don't lie to yourself or her faggot
Can we have a general moving out advice/what to expect thread?
I have a lot of anxiety.
1) Dont pay for TV. Get internet only.
2) Stop paying for services that are 'luxury'. Dump your netflix, hulu, spotify premium, whatever subscriptions 3) Stop eating fast food. Learn to cook for yourself. you'll save money 4) Keep your environment clean and orderly. This'll cut down on mental anxiety and, in the event you get sick, limit any possible re-exposure you might encounter to contaminated surface areas 5) Dont waste your time sitting on your ass. Get some kind of side-hustle going on. If you work a full time job, try to find a part time job that engages your skills that you consider a hobby. 6) Avoid joint checking accounts/credit cards/shared debts with roommates or significant others. 7) If you're renting a room or splitting the rent with other people, NEVER PAY CASH for your portion. make your share of the rent or utilities out in the form of a money order to the landlord and the utility agencies. ALWAYS pay your shit this way. Always keep track of the shit you pay for. 8) when you go grocery shopping, shop along the ouside edges of the store. You'll buy fresh foods and stay away from the processed shit in the isles. The exceptions to this are pastas, dried beans, spices/seasonings/etc, and anything thats massivly on sale/BOGO/etc. 9) Always look for sales/coupons/discounts on shit that you regularly use. 10) Take good care of your primary mode of transportation. This is a prohibitive measure. When you cant travel (unless you live in an area with damn good metro transportation) you cant work for fuck. YES it will cost you a little extra money, but its better than not having or losing a job.
11) Take care of yourself! FFS. If you cant afford health care, educate yourself on how to stay healthy and make sure you have items that allow you to perform minor first aid on yourself. If you're a studious person, I highly recommend that you study Emergency Care manuals that EMTs/Paramedics study
12) Make adventageous friendships. Get to know a mechanic. Get to know a nurse/EMT/Paramedic. Get to know someone who works in catering/hospitality/a quality resturant who can sometimes bring you leftovers. Get to know your neighbors in case there's emergencies. Make sure you establish friendly relationships with those who are in key positions of power that directly affect your daily living. 13) When you have the money, make sure you prepare yourself a 'bug out' or survival bag. 14) Get a bicycle. 15) Only get a pet if you're in an established/stable home environment. Pets are an extra cost that you might not be able to afford. 16) SHOP GOODWILL. Seriously. You'll be surprised the shit you find there. 17) Always buy used when you can, but only if its quality used. If its cheap shit, then buy new. 18) If you get to the point you're ready to buy a car, buy from an owner. Dealerships will gouge you with fees and other garbage. 19) When scouting out places to live, hang around the neighborhood for 3-4 hours. See what kind of people come and go. If it feels questionable, then it probably is. 20) Always be prepared for whatever general flavor of crazy shit weather/natural disasters are local to your area. Live in the north? Better have some kind of cold weather clothing. Live in florida? Pray to god you know what the best route is to avoid hurricanes and quickly stock up on water/nonperishable foods/backup generator if you can afford one.
Stay organized AKA clean as soon as something needs to be cleaned. Don't let anything build up. Have a calendar so you know exactly when shit needs to be paid by shit you have to go do etc... Just make sure you keep everything clean and organized.
Wherever you plan on moving to, get a AirBnB near the place and hang around the area for the day. You'll know if you wouldn't mind living there at that point. Do not move into any place you without meeting the landlord or if rooming, meeting the flatmates or having a Skype call just to see if they're assholes and the last person to have that room left because they are assholes. Never pay any bills in cash. Don't even bother carrying cash. It's pointless and unsafe. Always use a debit card, check, or money order, some way to record the transfer. Paying bills these days is typically done online, but if you're rooming, everyone has to pay their share. Most places will require a background check and other bullshit that takes like two days to process depending on how shitty the place is, so you have to have everything set up to move in like 3 days in advance.
Buy magic beans.
>finishing my first year of my chemistry degree >live with parents in east london Is there any hope I'll be able to rent my own place within 2/3 years of graduating? I'd prefer to stay in london but shit the house prices are insane. Speaking of which, what's the minimum salary you need to be able to live on your own somewhat comfortably whilst renting?
Since 4chan is my only social life should I suck it up and buy the 4chan pass?
for people who pay for it how do you find it?
You could also purchase the normal life pass. It costs around a standing up and a turning the computer off. Kind of cheap if you ask me.
What could possibly be going on over that warrants $10(?)?
I would do the same if I approved of the sites owner.
Ask yourself this. How much money do you have to spare? How much do you think Hiroshimoot deserves it compared to you?
This website runs on money, so you wouldn't be throwing your money away if you spend it here, since you're here all the time anyway. And you never have to actually log in if you don't like it. You won't ever know for certain unless you spend 20 bucks to do so.
You could buy an SA account for half the price.
I've been thinking about a lot of stuff recently, and would appreciate any kind of input.
For contexts sake, I have moderate depression and anxiety, and I am on the high functioning side of the autistic spectrum.
I'm starting therapy this week after not doing it for a few years, and there has just been so much crossing my mind.
Since therapy is essentially just retraining myself how to think, how do I decide what I "need" to talk about during the sessions?
There are plenty of problems I have, like having no real friends in real life, not having a passion, and being a neet to name a few, and I assume these would all be proper things to bring up during a session, but what about smaller problems? Things that have upset me or just small things that I'm anxious about. I just have trouble thinking for myself, and my primary concern is that I may flood an appointment with mindless problems that don't lead to a solution. Should I just trust my therapist to be able to decide what is actually worth talking about? For smaller problems, do I just need to deal with it until I make progress with my mental problems, so I can actually think for myself and not have to talk to another person about them?
I'm just having a bit of trouble thinking of all of this alone.
Thank you in advance, /adv/.
Thanks anon, this helps a lot.
If you don't mind me asking, you mentioned that therapy never got you anywhere.
Was there anything that did work?
Nope. I've been too much of an escapist and too lacking in drive to do anything that involves gritting your teeth and bearing with the unpleasantness until you become a better person through the challenge. Not fitness, not studying, not a job, and certainly not cognitive behavioral therapy. After all, there is no point for me to do so. So instead of doing things they told me to do, I just stopped going.
I'm guessing this is a lot less helpful to you. Hopefully you're not too far gone, anon.
Well can I just ask if your "moderate depression" is real and by that I mean, if you been that way longer then 2-3 weeks, or it's just 3 days depression?
Its been about 5 years anon, with a few "alright" months scattered throughout, but even those were super, just not as bad I suppose.
weren't super* oops.