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>Previous Thread:
>>29034078

If I act like [X], I will slowly but surely become [X], correct?
So if I act like I'm the king on Earth, and by using the "Fake it til you make it" strategy, I will eventually become just that, right?
Also with the law of attraction in mind, it would make sense, right?

I'm a failed mid-20s non degree holder and I have the typical weeb pipe-dream of moving to Japan to get a job. How the hell can I do it? I don't even know what I "like" so I can't just say "oh I want to be a teacher in Japan" or "I want to be a video game designer in Japan", I feel very aimless.

Should I go the typical "get an English degree and teach English in Japan" route which would require me to spend a few more years of my life getting a degree? I was told about a programming bootcamp that would only take about 1.5 years and I could potentially do that but I don't know how in demand a programming job in Japan would be

What are other options to getting a job there/being able to move there? I'm tired of wasting my life away.

All these years I thought I lost my libido but it turns out I just needed to move to a neighborhood with more skinny white women. Ever since I moved I see someone new who makes me react like pic related every day. How do I attract white women as a round-faced mystery meat mutt?

>24 years old
>still live with father (70yo)
>been working a shit retail job as my first job for 15 months now (plan on quitting before the year ends), but I am in "senior"
>have an associate's degree in Business Administration, but still haven't done anything in the field
>have a good amount of savings, but only due to father having no need for any financial assistance from me
>studying to get a certification in bookkeeping, but only because I've forgotten the basics of accounting
>no kids, but no gf
>no car, but I'm not lacking for commute options
>don't drink or smoke, but I don't go out
>lost 15 pounds since the end of January, but still overweight
The situation's not good, but I am aware it could be worse. I'm just worried if my life is going to stagnate at this.

LAST: >>29044944
Picrews, toonmes, rate me shit, and hookups go to the /soc/ ATOGA: >>>/soc/32203082
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FAQ:
>What do men/women think about <any trait/interest incl. looks/figure, virginity/bodycount, height, fitness, penis/breasts/butt size/shape, sex act>?
>Do any <men/women> like <a complex on the above>?
There's no one answer, but complexes are a turn-off

>Where do I go on a date?
Coffee is the ideal 1st date, but any of these work: food, drinks, ice cream, froyo, film, zoo, aquarium, museum, gallery, park

>I'm shy/afraid of <people/rejection>
>Where/how do I meet people for <friends/love/socialization>?
It takes time & effort. Leave your comfort zone. Find an activity you're passionate about.

>I'm a virgin with no friends, what do?
Get friends first

>I like someone, what do?
>How do I tell if someone likes me?
Ask him/her out; "signs" of attraction don't exist

>Something insignificant happened! What does it mean?
Can't say w/o detail; odds are you're overthinking it

>Someone made it clear he/she isn't interested. Do I have a chance?
No

>Do cold approaches work?
Not unless you have used car salesman levels of charisma

>Can I get out of the friendzone?
Not directly. All strats require friendship to decay to casual acquaintance, potential sexual attraction, & focus on him/her to die. You may need to date others to do this. The goal: approximate a normal pre-dating relationship and date normally. Success is very low, but higher than staying friends, but may take years.

Don't do the following:
>Q/claim/insecurity about penises/breasts
>Deliberately hide people's sex in Qs
>Ask generic hypos with no details if you want specific advice
>Re-ask a Q ignoring prev. replies
>Whine about all men/women
>Whine about OP/FAQ
>Whine if someone rejects the premise of a Q
>Whine if responses differ from expectations

>Where's the new thread?
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What I mean by this is you lose a lot of time you could spend working on yourself or your side hustle on cooking. Instead you use hours of your day on cooking when you could go to the gym or learn a new useful skill. All this assumes that cooking is not related to your job so respond to this with that in mind.

What do you do if youre not attractive but not particularly ugly? I'd say Im like a 4, definitely below average but not rough to look at. Do I even try?

I consider myself an intelligent person but I put in the bare minimum of effort in my college classes. I smoke weed with buddies every day and complete busywork assignments with low effort.

I attend every class and the teachers love me because I'm attractive and a big presence in the class who helps them out by asking "the right questions" to get the class back on track or reinforce the nuances of the lesson plan.

I only study the day before exams and I have a 3.01 gpa my second year. I usually get straight B's with the occasional A or C to offset.

My stoner buddies come from very powerful backgrounds so they source me internships through nepotism or whatever. Do I need to improve as a student?

ok so im sorta kinda seeing a girl for the first time in my life, shit's cash
i can be myself around her, she really likes me and i can talk to her about anything and not give her the ick, but her past experiences are making me insecure as fuck to the point where i wanna call off the whole thing
>2-3 previous boyfriends
>casually dated more people
>never explicitly mentioned hookups but she used to do drugs and rave etc so lets be real its probably happened
for reference im a khhv and she lost her virginity in high school, she was surprised when i told her and meant her surprise as a compliment because she thought i was cool but it still made me wanna fucking kms because it made me feel like a fucking defective piece of shit
should i just let the past be the past? she's moved on from the stuff she used to do and i trust her not to see other guys behind my back, but i wanted my first time/relationship to be with someone in a similar boat to me
even though she really likes me i worry that im just gonna be another guy for her and i really really dont want that
for the record im in my early 20s so i could easily find someone else with little to no experience